I’m going to be honest with you, I thought for a minute I was done with blogging.
We’ve got lots going on at the moment, what with renovating our farmhouse and keeping two kiddos happy and alive; life is pretty busy. I started to wonder where blogging fits into it all.
But actually it makes me feel like I’m doing something just for me. This little space is all mine and I’m Gemsy here, not just Archie and Theo’s Mum.
I love being a stay at home Mum but I don’t want to just survive it, I want to enjoy it. For me, the way I do this is to make sure I get some time on my own or do something for myself. You can’t pour from an empty cup. I also find I’m so much more present with the boys when I’ve had some time out.
Here are a few of the ways I manage to fill that cup when I’m at home with my boys.
1. ONE WHOLE HOT CUP OF TEA.
I make myself a cuppa, sit down and drink the whole thing beginning, middle and end. I only get up if there’s a poo emergency! I tell the boys that Mummy’s having her ‘special’ cup of tea and I try my very best not to get up.
2. A SNEAKY WALK WHEN DADDY’S HOME.
When tea time is over and Daddy’s around I sneak out for a power walk with just Ro-Ro. If I tell the boys I’m going they instantly want to join, then it turns into more of a drunken slumber.
I also go out for a walk with the boys during the day with the double buggy. For the first ten minutes Archie rides his bike and then with a little iPad bribery ( I know, call the Mum police) he hops into the buggy so I can have a proper power walk. Thirty minutes on the iPad is a great swap for a little sanity and I’m not afraid to admit it.
A walk outside is such a mood booster for me and definitely makes me a better Mum.
3. ASK FOR HELP.
If it all just gets too much, ask for help. Being able to do this is most definitely a strength and not a weakness. When my cup is well and truly empty I take the boys to Grandma’s or Nanny’s, come home, run the bath and lie in silence. Afterwards I feel that refreshed I could have been to a spa for the day!
Doing the washing up or folding the laundry is so much more fun when you’ve got something interesting to listen to.
My favourite is Happy Mum, Happy Baby by Giovanna Fletcher. If you haven’t heard these podcasts then you must. She interviews inspiring Mothers and Father’s and gets their take on Parenthood. When you’re knee-deep in washing it’s so refreshing to hear other people are in the same boat.
I’ve got a list of podcasts that are worth listening to but that’s for another blog post.
5.GETTING UP BEFORE THE KIDS
I don’t do this as often as I used too as Arch has started waking earlier but getting up before everyone else is the most wonderful way to start the day. I usually make myself a cuppa and sit and read a magazine or work on plans for the renovation. When the kids wake up and sleepily come downstairs I feel one step a head of them.
6. A WHOLE DAY OFF.
When the weekend rolls around I love spending it as a family but every so often I just need a whole day with the girls. On these days I remember I have a life outside being Mum to my lovely boys. I miss them all incredibly on these days but on my return I feel recharged and ready to get stuck in to sticky fingers and carpet farming.
These tips are only simple pleasures but they make for a happy mum which in turn means a happy baby or in my case happy boys.
I’d love to hear how you find time for yourself, any tips gratefully received in the comments below.